Behavior Management, Features, Special Education

Foundations of an Effective and Efficient Child Care Provider

In the recently concluded 8th Biennial Convention of the Philippine Society for Developmental and Behavioral Pediatrics, many ideas were conveyed with scientific and factual data. It has been an enriching 2-day event attended by Pediatricians, Therapists, Educators and Advocates.

There is a study on the effects of an enriched environment to the brain of children. Dr. Joel Lazaro provided an insight on a study that the brain has a phenomenon called “Use it or Lose it”. When you provide an environment that stimulates the mind of a child synapses are formed. Early experiences matter because it influence brain architecture and function. Take for example Tiger Woods, a champion golfer. He was given an opportunity to play and be trained by his father, also a golfer. At a young age, he was already performing at par with other pros. The first five years of the child is an essential time- the foundation years. There is an interplay of nature versus nurture. The brain is developing during those years. Learning starts at home – his first school.

Furthermore, the plenary became more active and participative when the topic emphasized on early intervention and stress. Early intervention starts when the therapists commences their programs, when the child receives education in regular or progressive schools, when parents are equipped on new parenting techniques and when the family adjusts to accommodate the child’s individual and unique needs.

Stress can be acquired by children too. This can be seen by physical manifestations. It can be positive, tolerable and toxic stress. Positive stress is felt when the child undergoes natural course, events that are necessary for his development. Tolerable stress can be a loss of something dear to him like a loved one, a toy, a change of residence or parents separating. Toxic stress is the severe form where the child experiences emotions more than he can handle. For example, physical abuse. Verbal abuse in my opinion may fall in this category. Ridicule, shaming, bad-mouthing are some habits that can lead to stress.

Finally, “less is more” as what Dr. Lazaro emphasized. We live in a world where there is an abundance of almost everything. For me, when we take control and appreciate the little things we have and use it to our advantage, that is to allow more time for stimulation. When we have lots of technological armours, what is left is little quality time. When we have lots of dreams and demands to our exceptional children so they can be achievers, what is left is little quality time for play.

By: Teacher Jun Polancos

Behavior Management



“Dolor complains that his son is way out of the line. She loses patience and applies corporal punishment. But, the behavior persists. She finds herself at the receiving end. Her son controls her.”

There is something in between that is very hard to balance. One side weighs heavier than the other.

For a parent raising a child with conduct problems, the search forIMG_9945 equilibrium can be so extreme when one is bombarded with negative events everyday.

When the child is behaving well, we tend to overlook it and disregard his simplest effort to be good. When the child misbehaves, the intensity of anger explodes. There is an imbalance between the two essential behavior modification tools.

To modify the behavior, explode rather with praise and joy for his good conduct. Sitting quietly, reading, playing peacefully, writing with much gusto, helping in chores, sharing thoughts are among the behaviors that Dolor should flood with praises without sarcasm and monetary reward.

On the other hand, if he misbehaves, explode not with words of IMG_9946ridicule but with techniques such as removal of privileges, toys, TV time, play and bombard him with chores, errands, more academic time with less litany of previous mistakes.

As Albert Einstein illustrated balance as if riding a bicycle, you have to keep moving forward to achieve it. Once the mistakes are done, apply these techniques, forget it and move forward. It may be easier said than done. But if we look outside of the situation, these are all you’ve got. Punish him and the vicious cycle will continue. Be passive and lenient and the boy can never be disciplined by you. Seek a path of true balance – a homeostasis.

* Dolor is a fictional character used for emphasis.